All relationships are built around something. The foundation of a relationship is the most important factor to heading into a good direction. Where the foundation is weak; the more you build, will not be beneficial. Think about if a building has a weak foundation. The higher and bigger the building becomes the more risk that building will have of falling over and collapsing. The same goes for our relationships. The more we build upon the bad things, the more chances we give for it all to fall apart. Every relationship has to be built around something.
If your relationship is built around sex, then I'm going to tell you now that you are headed down a dangerous road. Sex is meant to be shared by a husband and his wife. Pre-marital sex does nothing but cause problems. First of all, if you can find someone that loves you for who you are without the sex then more than likely you have found the right person because everyone cant be in a relationship without sex. People are immature and believe in their minds that sex has to be in the picture but I am here to tell you it doesn’t.
If you can stimulate a persons mind and be intimate with them without sex then you are headed towards a great relationship. The sex will come, you just have to be patient. I once heard someone say I will wait to have "blessed sex." Not trying to be funny but think about the love you gain with someone/ for someone along your relationship path. So just imagine falling in love without sex. By the time you are married and on your honey moon, that experience will be amazing. Something that you cant describe unless you have went through it.
We have truly lost the principles and values of what a relationship should be built on. Too many people are building their relationships on the wrong things, such as lies, dishonesty, no true love, sneaking around, not being real, sex, and etc.. If we can get back to relying on what is right, our relationships will last and we wont have to stress. We make life and relationships harder than what they should be.
The Bible tells us that "true love never fails." Love is meant to be kind and not cause any problems. We allow ourselves, our old ways, our selfishness, our past to all get in the way of our love and we wonder why love never works out for us. It is not God who it causing the problems, it is us. Until you can fix yourself and get right with God, you will never be able to fully make it work with someone else.
We have to build our relationship around God. Without Him first and the head of our life then the relationship will never amount to anything. You have to be able to talk about God with your lover, pray together, go to church together, praise and worship together, cry tears of joy together. We have to have God in our relationship at all times. We have to love God more than we love each other then His love will be shed upon our relationships.
It is time to correct the problems in our lives and in our relationship. We can truly have greatness in our life but we have to be willing to step back and allow God to work on us. We have to seek Him like never before so He can show us all of our faults, mistakes and weaknesses. God said, "He will give you the desires of your heart." If you truly believe it then you will allow Him to manifest in your life. Keep striving for perfection and greatness!
God Bless!
